I wanted to do something spectacular again this year. If you've encountered the 5 love languages, you'll already know that they are:
- acts of service
- words of affirmation
- gifts
- quality time
- physical touch
Words of affirmation wouldn't just be "thanks for changing Lizzy's diaper" or "I'm glad you're home from work I missed you" but they would be well-thought-out love notes in some daily theme.
And acts of service wouldn't just be an ironed shirt for work and dinner on the table; I mean, really, I do that every day so it isn't spectacular, right? So I made a list of projects that need doing... clean out the closet, organize the cupboards kinds of projects. Yeah, that would be spectacular, alright.
And then I could mesh quality time and physical touch, if I make a point to give him a foot rub or a shoulder massage each day, focusing some time on meaningful conversation or something devoted to him, then there you have it.
It's February 11th and Clinton has received 3 notes from me.The kitchen is mostly tidy and the living room has gotten tidy a couple times this month; but my list of 14 projects... yeah. Not 11/14ths done. Not half done.
The bathroom got clean... because my darling husband cleaned it top to bottom.
I hate letting pregnancy be an excuse for short temper or failed resolutions; but it takes a lot out of a girl. I lamented my terrible failure yesterday and he was confused.
Me: "I'm sorry I didn't do anything nice for you today."
Clinton: "What do you mean? you ironed my shirt, made the bed, cooked breakfast and dinner, took care of Lizzy, and did the dishes... on top of working a full day. What can I do for you? do you need me to rub your feet?"
I guess the Valentines countdown is a joint effort this year.
3 comments:
Ahh, this is a great post! Thanks for sharing it!
Oh Mindy. You are a jewel. Thank you for the reminder of the many ways to show love and affection. I think Clinton is a lucky guy, and looks like you're lucky too! Sometimes I think the simple things actually are the spectacular things. =)
I love Clinton, can I just tell you that? Of course you're tired and moody and having a hard time keeping up with your intentions--you have a big baby in your belly, you have an active little girl to run after, and aren't you still househunting? I think your Val's ideas are awesome, though. I'm going to try it next year! You rock.
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